I was doing my usual round of blog rounds last night when I stumbled upon this story on Solomon Sydelle's - (another absolutely cool lady in blogville) blog. A lady in Maryland was being taken to the court and charged on several counts of Child Neglect for leaving her kids in unsavoury conditions as well as Animal Cruelty.
Back home, it is quite a joy when you have a new baby and relatives and friends are practically falling over themselves to help you in one way or the other look after your new baby. This help could be either in the form of one cousin or the other volunterring to come over and stay with you and help you carry the new baby or either set of parents especially the moms being handy with all sorts of tips -bathing, feeding, sleeping etc. But the bottom line is that there is always someone around and ready to help out.
Over in the diaspora - the saying goes you dont suffer fools gladly. Help is more often than not absolutely non existent. Correct me if I am wrong please anybody. But the existent help isnt free either. Child care is downright expensive and you could pay up to £800 or more a month to keep your baby in the daycare while you go off to work pending when he or she (new baby) is able to start proper school or there is always the other option. Stop work, stay at home and look after the baby resulting in loss of earnings from one partner while the other partner now has sole responsibility of all the bills and expenses in the household. Gone are the relatives and friends so readily available back home cos time is money.
Which brings me back to my story about AMARA EDEN. She had 5 kids between the ages of 6months to 6years. Why was she having so many children - or didnt the word "CONTRACEPTION" exist in her everday lingua, vocabulary or dictioanry? Firemen were called to the building due to smoke coming from the building and discovered the eldest trying to feed the younger ones with beans from a pot on the stove from which the smoke was emanating. I feel sad for Amara and angry at her at the same time. Why have so many kids if you are a single parent and knowing that you cant afford to pay for childcare while you are out working and trying to earn a living to take care of the kids you have brought into this world? A video of the start of her apartment can be found as broadcast by the news channels. VIDEO HERE
I am trying to imagine that she came back tired from her place of work each day and that is why her room is in such a state or maybe she tidies the apartment before she goes to work each day and its during the time frame she is away that the kids get the place all scattered all over again while they are playing? Why on earth did she keep a dog too? In the same untidy room as her kids? Faeces, urine all over the place? Where on earth was her husband, partner, boyfriend , or whatever during the happening of all these events? Where ever he is, especially if he is in the US and specifically Maryland also, he too must be brought out to explain why he wasnt contributing his own two cents and helping take care of the kids or babysit while Amara was out at work. Only Amara can explain what was going through her mind and her frustrations that led to all these unsavoury events and circumstances. This post is one of mixed feelings - she must have been struggling to cope but the situation and condition she left her kids in was absolutely appalling.